Language and Gender

I found the flickr dialogue to be mostly a waste of one's time and words.  I am not one to be offended by how things are phrased in relation to gender and don't think anyone should.  I believe that by having to make things be gender specific it reduces the amount of detail that is given.  For instance, I would find it much easier to say "the waiter" versus "the server who was male" (although I would be more inclined to say "the server who was a boy," but that would also be incorrect).  I believe that man was created as the more dominant of the two sexes and should be shown respect in that manner.  I will always say the husband's name before the wife's. For me it is more honorable to do so.  Even the terms "female" and "woman" have the masculine terms within them because he is first.  No part of man or male has a suggestion of femininity within them.  I think that there are a few people that need something to complain about and so have chose it to be the terminology in which they are referenced and have made enough noise about it that there is now rules to govern how people are referenced.  I believe the majority of people would not even notice they were referred to in an unfair manner if someone else did not point it out to them.  I know I probably wouldn't.